Picture the scene: your loved one has Stage 4 cancer. He/she is being nursed by you and carers at home. He/she is in a great deal of pain, which oral medication is not solving. You phone your local community nurses and hear a taped message before being placed in a queue, telling you that, amongst other things, "abuse" will not be tolerated, the NHS has 'zero tolerance' for such a (beastly) thing. So, you are stressed out by your partner's pain, have been up all night, and let fly with an expletive at what you deem the unhelpful attitude of the staff you are talking to on the phone, or simply become disgruntled by it. Believe us, unfeeling, unhelpful busybodies, who lecture, ignore what you say, and seem to have had the training of a 1950s nursing auxiliary, do exist. Misandry is also rife.  The bigoted feminist toolbox has labelled men as 'toxic' if they are even slightly off. Add to the picture. You naturally swear a lot, you are worn down by your partner...